In a normal converstation that you may have with someone there is a certain, unwritten, etiqutte that every abides by. There are certain topics that are out of bounds, like for instance talking about someones bowl movements, asking someone about the gritty details of their sex life or making reference to any sexual part of their body. We all know about this and we all know what is deemed as an acceptable converstaion to have with someone.
So why is it that the minute you are pregnant, every Tom, Dick and Harry that you meets decides that it is suddenly okay to discuss your boobs.
"Are you going to breastfeed?" That question became the bane of my life while I was pregnant. I got asked it in the supermarket, in the pub and even once on the train and all by complete strangers!
Sometimes I would answer them honestly and say "No I'm not going to breastfeed" and then wait for the inevitable torrent of questions that follow an answer like that, "Why not" or "You do know that breast is best". At this point I would normally make my excuses and leave before I stab them with the nearest pointy thing that I could find.
The worst for me was when men use to ask that question. Like they know what it's like to be pregnant for nine months, squeeze something out of them that is in no way in proportion to the hole that it is coming out of and then let said thing suck the life out of you. I don't think so!
You might of gathered by now that I didn't breastfeed. I know, I know I'm the devil mother. Giving my children such an unfair start in life but I had my reason, quite a few actually, and in the end for me the cons far outwayed the pros. The main con being that there was no way in hell that I was going to whip my boob out in public for the world to see. Just thinking about all those people watching you, that are pretending not to, freaks me out. Urrgh. I didn't really feel like becoming an agoraphobic for the next 6 months or so.
So with that and my many other cons I decided against it and do you know what my children are still alive, they're healthy and they're happy. What a shock!
Don't get me wrong I do know that breast is best but it just wasn't going to work for us. So what about you, where you subjected to the pressure of breastfeeding?
I breastfeed for 6 months, had my tits out in pubs, bars restaurants, shops ... it was the only thing that made me feel like my old self again! ; )
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment. You are a braver woman than I am x
DeleteLol, this is pretty much word for word what I used to say when pregnant, why do people think it's ok to discuss such a personal topic? It's great to read such an honest post!
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Thanks for your comment and the follow, much appreciated x
DeleteFirst time here, from Twitter! Been reading your posts with a chuckle, I'm sure many of us identify! I'm afraid I breastfed all 4 kids, the youngest till he was 3 & never once flashed myself in public! All subtly done! I wasn't breastfed though & I think I turned out fine! xx
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It's good that you breastfeed and you didn't flash lol x
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